In a recent post, I asked what you can hope for when you have a terminal diagnosis. I argued that despite your diagnosis, you will always be able to serve.
In any situation, there is something you can do. We are cancer patients; people are caring for us, so we have opportunities to care for our caregivers.
I have a second thought about this. Kate Manne has pointed out that
women are expected to give traditionally feminine goods (such as sex, care, nurturing, and reproductive labor) to designated, often more privileged men, and to refrain from taking traditionally masculine goods (such as power, authority, and claims to knowledge) away from them.
My view remains that male and female patients will benefit if they offer appropriate care for hard-pressed caregivers. But I want to acknowledge that women do not need me to tell them that this is a good thing to do.